By Amy Yanik Meisel |
It’s not always easy communicating with your ex-spouse even about the simplest of matters. But in families with children, on-going communication is not only necessary, it’s required. Here are a few tips to help you communicate effectively with your ex-spouse via email:
- Just the facts ma’am. Tempting as it may be, adding snide comments about your ex’s new girlfriend into your email communications only serves to distract from the real reason the email was sent. That doesn’t help your children and it doesn’t get you to your end goal of finalizing the communication chain so that you can move on with the rest of your day. Always ask yourself, “How would I feel if this email was given to the Judge/Custody Evaluator/Parenting Consultant?” If the email could be framed against you in a negative way, don’t send it. It’s not worth it. Instead, talk to your therapist, attorney, or a close personal friend to get any negative feelings out.
- Keep it short. Your ex-spouse is not your pen pal. Keep your communications direct, civil and to the point.
- Ask your attorney. If after following the above tips you still are not sure whether or not your email communication is appropriate, you can ask your attorney to review it. You shouldn’t rely on your attorney to draft your day-to-day communications but sometimes it is helpful to have your attorney review the content of certain email communications. That way you can be certain that your email is appropriately written.